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<li>那些糟心事儿</li>
<li>转变心态，下凡历劫</li>
<li>活在当下</li>
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<h2 id="那些糟心事儿"><a href="#那些糟心事儿" class="headerlink" title="那些糟心事儿"></a>那些糟心事儿</h2><p>我有个小伙伴，能力很强，但是运气不好，遇人不淑——他财务自由的动机很纯粹，就是为了从现在的坑爹公司中高喊着“Fu** You！”跳出来。</p>
<p>他说的很多糟心事儿我还挺感同身受的，列举几个特别有共鸣的遭遇，估计很多小伙伴都遇到过：</p>
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<li>工作没价值感。年年谈战略规划，但从不执行，甚至反着干。</li>
<li>老板为了讨好客户，啥离谱要求都同意，然后回来狂逼开发人员。还言语讥讽“你们这些开发就知道说不行”（老板不懂技术，但亲自指挥开发）</li>
<li>制定根本完不成的截止时间，开始安慰大家“我们先写着，后面再调整”。但等到开始赶日期就各种指责“你们怎么说好的进度都完不成”，各种 PUA。</li>
<li>还控制欲特别强，见不得员工「看起来」闲着，没有机会思考、复盘和优化。每逢周五或者节假日前最后一个工作日，准要发飙一通，把所有员工怼一遍……</li>
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<p>这还只是各种吐槽的冰山一角，所以小伙伴总感慨“1 分工资，10 分糟心。啥时候能熬到财务自由啊……”</p>
<h2 id="转变心态，下凡历劫"><a href="#转变心态，下凡历劫" class="headerlink" title="转变心态，下凡历劫"></a>转变心态，下凡历劫</h2><p>但好像从某个时间起，我们就很少再聊到这些糟心事儿了。所以我事后就问他，“好像很长时间没吐槽了？”</p>
<p>他说，“我想明白了，我其实是在下凡历劫”</p>
<p>一句话把我整懵了，这啥意思？</p>
<p>然后他解释到：</p>
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<p>我平时总在学习各种提升工作生产力的方法，了解关于心理和人性的知识，总想着「有朝一日」要把他们用上，但却忽视了「现在」就在最好的试炼场。</p>
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<p>比如他以前是苦恼老板 PUA、同事甩锅。</p>
<p>但他后来发现这正好也是分析人性和提升沟通技巧的机会。</p>
<p>于是他开始暗中实践各种甄别 PUA 并优雅拒绝不合理要求的方法，再根据别人的反应优化自己的“系统”。</p>
<p>再后来他发现不但可以自己尝试，还可以观战别人如何吵架、甩锅，从别人身上继续学习，经验加倍。<strong>“别人看电视剧花钱，我看剧反而还有钱赚了～”</strong></p>
<p>基于上面的经验，他又开始实践预期管理，管理老板对开发进度的预期。“<strong>假如成了，我争取到了时间；假如没成，我排除了一个无效方法</strong>”</p>
<p>不断思考如何更快完成任务但暂时秘而不宣（老板见不得人闲着，而且加薪无望），然后用节省下来的时间自我提升。结果工作时间越短，自我提升的时间就越多；自我提升的时间越多，能力越强、工作时间越短。<strong>“****带薪学习，变相加薪了”</strong> </p>
<p>他甚至还心里积累了一份做老板的负面清单，提醒自己以后做了老板千万不要做的事儿。<strong>拿老板当学习素材，再看老板犯浑也没以前那么难受了</strong>。</p>
<p>小伙伴后来是这么总结的：</p>
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<p>以前我总在指望啥时候能脱离苦海，太关注未来却忽视了当下。</p>
<p>但后来我发现，就算离开这里有些东西还是不会变，比如不管在哪我们都需要圆滑处事、守护边界的能力，包括自由以后。</p>
<p>那现在这个环境不就是这些「带得走的技能」的试炼场吗？如果这里我都能顺利处理，以后才更有底气。</p>
<p>我发现了“1 份工资 10 份闹心”的另一面——别人要花 10 年学完的经验，我没准只要 1 年就能攒够了。哈哈哈哈，是不是很像下凡历劫？以此磨难看透人生疾苦，帮自己成就更高境界。</p>
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<p>说得我是一愣一愣滴。可算明白为啥会有人对传销深信不疑了，就这口才谁能抗得了，有那么一瞬间我都有点想去他们公司上班了……</p>
<p>小伙伴赶紧又补了一句，当然该不爽的时候还是会不爽的，但<strong>不会再想着以后如何如何，而是会反过来想，这份遭遇能帮我精进哪项「带得走的技能」呢？</strong>不再那么排斥当下了。</p>
<h2 id="活在当下"><a href="#活在当下" class="headerlink" title="活在当下"></a>活在当下</h2><p>关于活在当下我最近也有点感悟，因为我发现活在当下不仅仅是心理安慰，也是一个检验做事方式的思路甚至是解决方法本身：</p>
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<p>如果你正在做的事情无法让你感受到喜悦、自在和轻松，这并不意味着你需要改变你正在做的事情，你需要改变的是你做事的方式，如何做事通常比做什么事更为重要。</p>
<p>——《当下的力量》</p>
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<p><strong>如果我们觉得当下很不爽，不一定是这件事儿错了，也可能是我们错过了某个更好的做事方式</strong>。没想到天上就掉下来这么一个堪称完美的现场教学，我大写的服气 👍</p>
<p>可能有的小伙伴会说，这么差劲的公司走人不就好了，何必这么耗着呢？这当然也是一种选择。</p>
<p>我分享小伙伴的思考不是为了教大家留下，而是想说，总会有一些工作是不那么顺心而又暂时不得不做的，但即使这样我们依旧可以选择做事方式。</p>
<p>我们可以选择熬，熬到结束终于出头了。但出头之前的日子会非常辛苦，甚至也可能永远熬不出头。</p>
<p>但也可以像小伙伴一样带着「历劫」的心态来思考——<strong>我们能从当下的逆境中得到什么、带走什么？</strong>找到这个能带走的东西我们的心态就会转变，甚至还能反过来从困境中发现更多机会。</p>
<p>转自：<a target="_blank" rel="noopener" href="https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/KtHUzj04eb8qPq3XRLUbiw">https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/KtHUzj04eb8qPq3XRLUbiw</a></p>
 
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                // todo: 这样不好，后面改成状态
                if (document.querySelector('.left-col.show')) return
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